How to Communicate With Your Man

Categories: Marriage Tips

By Denny Freeman on July 17, 2017

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A key to communicating with your man: learn to simplify your conversation. If you talk to him like you talk to your girlfriends, youll tire him out. Most guys have relatively short attention spans, so hell probably tune you out or drift off if you don get to your point in thirty seconds. Its not that hes not interested in you, he’s just not interested in all the details.

Another tip: stick to one topic at a time and let him know when you’re changing topics. When you move onto a new topic, hes still processing the first one. Consistency is very important when communicating with men. I know there may be exceptions, but generally this is how we men are.

When we
e riding in our car, Sandy sometimes puts her phone on the car speaker for both of us to hear. After twenty minutes of my wife talking to one of our daughters, I’m worn out just hearing them go on and on about everything in their daily lives. I finally just stop listening or tune them out as I drive.

Another tip: say what you really mean. Men get confused when you think he understands everything you have said or implied. For example, when he asks, “What’s wrong?” and you say, “nothing”, hell probably take you at your word. But you may be thinking, there is a problem, and if he really cared, he’d stay and ask me more questions.

And he really gets confused when you stand there with your hands on your hips and give him that “look.” That look that says, I’m really upset, but I’m going to make you read my mind. Im sure at this point, he is lost and doesn’t know what to do.

Another tip: learn how he communicates. For example, when he comes home from work, and you ask him a question like, “How was work today?” If he answers with a one-word response, what he really saying is, “Please leave me alone, I need some quiet time to myself.”

If you keep asking him more questions, he may just leave the room, so he doesn’t get mad at you. He simply needs time to unwind and refocus his batteries. I know you
e ready to communicate and want to share the events of the day, but just give him a little time to refocus if he needs it.

I know these tips may be confusing for you as a woman, but you’re starting to realize the differences and why we should understand what they are. This equips you to communicate effectively. Remember that connecting with one another through good communication will help and protect your relationship with that special guy.

Until next time,

Farmerd