Are You In Agreement As a Married Couple?

Categories: Marriage Tips

By Denny Freeman on July 31, 2017

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Dear Brides:

Will your marriage be like your parents? As a couple, you will enter this new relationship with the history and background of both sets of parents. That’s not a bad thing, but together, youll have to make decisions on how youll proceed as a couple in your new marriage.

For example, how you were raised as a child will impact your parenting style:

How did your family show affection? Did they hug and touch one another?
How did you celebrate holidays, especially birthdays?
Was it common for friends and relatives to drop in without an invitation and be welcomed?
Did your family plan and go on vacations annually?
Did your parents both work outside the home?
Did your parents believe household tasks, such as dusting and vacuuming, should be shared by all members of the family?
Was being on time for events important?
Did your parents attend your children’s school activities?
What was your parents attitude toward work and their employer?
How did your parents handle their financial matters?

As you can see, you have many options on how to proceed as a family, and there’s no right or wrong answer. The key is deciding what you both want and agreeing to do it together.

My first Christmas with Sandy fifty-four years ago revealed that we were raised with different Christmas rituals. She was raised opening Christmas gifts on Christmas morning, while I was raised opening gifts on Christmas Eve. As I recall, it wasn’t even brought up for a vote. And for the last fifty-four years, weve opened our gifts on Christmas morning. I guess it wasn’t a big issue for me.

Again, the key is to be in agreement with what you want to do as a married couple!

Until next time,

FarmerD