Why a Couple’s Sex Life can Reveal the Heart of the Relationship.

Categories: Marriage Tips

By Denny Freeman on April 16, 2018

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Dear Brides:

SEX is a conversation carried out by other means. If you get on well out of bed, half the problems in bed are solved.

It’s no secret; a major strength for happily married couples is the quality of their sexual relationship. Individuals in happy marriages are much more satisfied with the amount of affection they receive than unhappily married couples. They also agree that their sexual relationship is satisfying and fulfilling, and they
e more likely to agree that their partners doesn use or refuse sex in an unfair way. Finally, they have few, if any, concerns that their partner may have thought about having a sexual relationship outside of the marriage.

Strengths of Happy Couples in the Survey {Prepare & Enrich} of 50,000 Couples:

Im completely satisfied with the affection I receive from my partner.
Our sexual relationship is satisfying and fulfilling.
My partner doesn use or refuse sex in an unfair way.
I have no concerns that my partner may not be interested in me sexually.
I don worry that my partner may consider having an affair.

The sexual relationship acts as an emotional barometer because it reflects a couple’s satisfaction with other aspects of their relationship. In other words, a good sexual relationship is often the outcome of a good emotional relationship between partners. In a way, a couple’s sex life can reveal the heart of the relationship.

An intimate, loving, respectful sexual relationship can be a physical manifestation of all thats good and right in your marriage-your deep emotional bond, your shared values, and your love for your children you
e raising together. An unsatisfying sexual relationship may be an indication that something is wrong or at least not as right as it could be.

The Top Five Sexual Problems for Couples in the Prepare & Enrich Survey.

1. Im dissatisfied with the amount of affection I receive from my partner.

2. Our levels of sexual interest are different.

3. Our sexual relationship has become less interesting and enjoyable.

4. Our sexual relationship isn satisfying or fulfilling.

5. Im dissatisfied with the level of openness in discussing sexual topics.

The process of talking about sex and your feelings about it can be very difficult, even for married couples. One reason is we rarely had role models for this type of conversation. Sex is most likely something you didn frequently discuss with your parents while growing up. When sex is talked about among adolescents, its often misinformed, unrealistic, and immature. Because of this, mature discussions of sexual issues acquired a taboo-like quality.

In the survey, half of all married couples find it difficult to discuss sexual issues. The ability to communicate about your sexual expectations and preferences is important in developing and maintaining sexual and relational satisfaction.

Final Tips to Create More Sexual Intimacy:

Improve communication: The quality of your communication improves the quality of your relationship; therefore, it can affect the quality of your sex.
Give tokens of affection without having it lead to the bedroom. A phone call in the middle of the day won’t hurt your relationship for later that night.
Understand the differences in desire and respect your partners differences.
Don’t let sex become routine in your marriage.
Don’t carry anger into the bedroom.
Nurture the romance in your relationship.
Realizing you and your partner don’t have to see eye to eye sexually.
Try to keep your sexual expectations realistic.

Finally, always remember that good sex begins while your clothes are still on.

Until next time,

FarmerD